The Importance of Date Night In Marriage

After the honeymoon stage, things can be a bit on the boring side. You and your spouse are probably over the ‘getting to know each other phase’ and now are sailing through a set schedule. So, your day-to-day lives can be pretty predictable. If you are in the West, you and your spouse most likely work and have busy lives.

Date night can bring you the excitement you felt when you first started dating  your spouse.

And if you have kids, it can even be harder to get some alone time with your spouse. Having kids can be demanding at times; especially considering your child’s age. The younger they are, the more dependent they are on you. Therefore, being wonderful parents will always come first.

Make your spouse a priority by spending as much quality time with them as you can. © Halima Jama

However, you and your spouse also need a little time for one another. That is why date night is so vital to a marriage. The reason being you two need time that you spend alone with yourselves. Spending quality time together alone – away from the kids, work and home – can be very beneficial for the both of you and your marriage. This alone time will allow the both of you to reconnect; sharing time together will also help you both grow closer to each other; just like when you two were dating, it can bring you the excitement you felt back then. The more shared memories you can store, the better!

I know some people who never go out because they can’t find a babysitter or their lives are just too busy. Date night doesn’t necessarily need to be spent outside. If you are able to spend time outside, that’s wonderful. Don’t be so compelled to go outside when you plan your dates. You can have date night at home! I know there are so many times when my hubby and I just don’t even want to go outside and we just stay in to watch a movie together.

Also, date night doesn’t necessarily have to be a “night” thing. If the both of you work, perhaps meeting up for lunch can be an option. You can also try and do fun things together during the day on weekends.

Here are 10 reasons why dating your spouse is important. © Pinterest

We all have busy lives; we all work, go to school or are busy staying home with our babies. This will make you feel so drained out at the end of the day. I’ve had conversations with some friends who say “girl, ain’t nobody got time for date night.” And this is what I say to them: there are obvious things which are very important such as working, making lots of money, going to school, etc. However, there is nothing more important than making your marriage and your spouse feel like they are your priority. At the end, marriage works if there are two people who work at it. There is this misconception that marriage just flourishes because two people who love each other want to spend the rest of their lives together. Listen, love will always be there, but there will be times where you ask yourself, “what am I doing with this person?” And surely, love will be the answer. But make it your duty to work on your marriage and spark the fire in each other’s love.

Make date night essential. Ink it in your calendar and make sure it happens; your goal should be spending quality time alone with one another regardless of how busy your lives get. Even if it is just one hour – that’s one hour that you two can talk, do something together.

As always, I leave  you with love.


Cover Photo: © Halima Jama

12 thoughts on “The Importance of Date Night In Marriage”

  1. Loved reading and agreeing with your well thought out article once again. MaashaALLAH sis! I am a firm believer in date night because it really does put the focus on just the two of you. If possible, don’t discuss family matters like money or the children, but rather enjoy the time alone as a couple n rekindle some old memories while making each other laugh. Thanks again iskufilan. Another article I’ve enjoyed reading walaalo. ??

    1. Ismahan!! Thank you so much walaashiis. You’re absolutely right…enjoying the time with one another and talking about something OTHER THAN what consumes you all day everday is a must! I am so glad you added that piece into this because it is really important. Thanks sis. I appreciate your thoughtful feedback.

  2. I am a big fan of your craft and I do believe and agree everything your saying. continue to share and give your expertise and may Allah continue to bless our marriage.

    1. And I am a big fan of you!!! Thank you so much for taking the time to read it and commenting. Amiin! May Allah always guide us, protect us and reward us with His blessings. Amin. Thanks for the comment 🙂

  3. Thanks macanto I like this article and really encourage me to go out with my hubby.because it’s something important to spend quality time.

    1. Zaynab:

      I am so glad this has encouraged to go out more now. We all can use a little reminder sometimes. Spending some quality time will definitely be worth it. I hope you two enjoy each other. Thank you for commenting sis. xoxo

  4. This is beautiful.
    Some people think it’s end of life especially after giving birth, all they do is busy themselves with chores, kids and perhaps work.

    It’s essential and very important to spend some time with your spouse.
    These are the moments I love most with my husband, even if it’s just over a glass of juice in our bedroom, sharing different ideas and thoughts.

    JazakiLLAHu Kher Sister.

    1. Dearest Ahlam:

      You hit the nail on the head. A lot of us just don’t prioritize date night because we either underestimate it’s power or we just don’t make it as important as all the other things we have to do. Doing something as small as that can be so beneficial. Thank you so much sis. I hope you and hubby spend more time together and enjoy one another’s company. XOXO

  5. I don’t have kids but me and my husband both have full time jobs with different schedules so it’s hard for us to find time to go out. Sometimes I just make a nice dinner, light some candles and set the table and have an indoor date night to surprise him.

    1. Mash’Allah, Romina. That is very beautiful and sweet. I love that idea. It makes your spouse feel good and at the same time, it creates a chance for you two to connect. May Allah bless your marriage sis. Thank you for the lovely comment.

  6. Salams Sahra..

    Yeah date night is must.. no excuses..I love surprising my wife new restaurant or story she never heard..when there’s no baby sitter dinner at home and cooking together is very romantic..thank god I know how to cook 🙂

    Warm regards and thanks for your reminder

  7. This is a good article. I hope it’s not like the Somali saying “cilmigayga raac ee csmalkayga ha raacin” meaning follow my teachings not my actions.

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